Marriage – Proverbs Week 6 – 9 AM

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Watch Opening  Video First
Marriage Promise
(5 min.)

The video is saying, “Hey, the purpose of marriage is not to make us happy, but it is to make us holy.” And in doing so we honor and glorify God.

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Audio Transcript:
Here at Kirkmont we’re walking through an Old Testament book of the Bible known as The Book of Proverbs. We’re looking at God’s wisdom for us over the last several weeks. We’ve seen God’s wisdom on various subjects. His wisdom on the subject of forgiveness, his wisdom on the subject of friendships, and last week we talked about the words that we use and our tongues… and here we find out that it’s impossible to really walk through the Book of Proverbs and not realize that God has a lot of wisdom that he wants to communicate to us on the subject of marriage.

Now by no means is the Book of Proverbs an exhaustive teaching on all that God has to say to us about marriage. This isn’t a marriage sermon in that sense. We have to look at all kinds of other texts from the Old Testament and New Testament as well. But nonetheless, we get a lot of wisdom from The Book of Proverbs alone when it comes to the subject of marriage. And that’s what we’re going to be looking at together this morning.

In fact, our BIG IDEA for us as we gather together around God’s word. Is this…

The wise person… this is the wisdom coming from The Book of Proverbs, the wise person understands the many ways a married couple can glorify God.

The wise person understands the many ways marriage can glorify God.

Notice a couple of things about that.

  1. One of the things is the many ways and that’s what we’re going to be using as our outline in our time together this morning. We’re going to be looking at several, 6, in fact, different aspects that the Proverbs point out about the nature of the marriage relationship.
  2. But notice that the intent or the purpose, where this is all pointing to is to glorify God, right? In fact, they made it so clear in the video by telling us. Hey, look the purpose of marriage is not to make you happy, the purpose of marriage is to make you holy. And in being coming more holy we glorify God. It’s one of the ways we glorify God in the marriage relationship,

So let’s be clear from the beginning as we walk through this, this is all pointing towards the glory of God.

The wise person understands the many ways a married couple can glorify God.

And those ways, just to list them and give you a sense of where we’re going to be going from The Book of Proverbs is this…

As I studied through the Book of Proverbs and use some other resources. I found that Proverbs presents to us:

  1. Marriage as a Covenant;
  2. Marriage as Friendship;
  3. Marriage as Intellectual Partners;
  4. Marriage as Managing Partners;
  5. Marriage as Economic Partners; and finally
  6. Marriage as Ministry Partners. 

Gold Dividing LineWe could have a whole sermon on each one of those but from just the Book of Proverbs alone it allows us to quickly walk through those various aspects of marriage.

Now, here’s a couple points that we need to realize about the Book of Proverbs so we can understand these Proverbs on the subject of marriage.

FIRST: The first one is that the Book of Proverbs was written primarily, it was directed and aimed towards young men to read and to have wisdom. And so that’s why when the Proverbs are speaking to someone it says something like, “Son, heed your parents’ advice, young man watch out for… or men look for this in a wife.”

So the reason why we need to understand that is because you don’t have a lot of the same reverse council about what a woman should look for in a husband because the Book of Proverbs was written first to be read by a group of young men.

I say that though not to exclude men or women from the value in reading the Book of Proverbs, but rather to help us see that if we’re going to understand these Proverbs correctly, we have to realize that they need to be read in the reverse as well.

For example, Proverbs chapter 31, the famous Proverbs wife, we could read through that and then flip it around and apply all those attributes for the most part to men as well and say this is what a woman should be looking for in a husband.

But the reason why Proverbs is speaking in the language of women is because it’s speaking to young men.

Okay, so we need to understand that, that these Proverbs, most of them go back and forth between husband and wife.

SECOND. The other thing we need to understand about these Proverbs before we read them is that marriage back that was very different—incredibly different.

Marriage back then, as we talked about with friendships a couple weeks ago, was so incredibly transactional in its nature. Men married women primarily for how they might provide for the home inside the house. They sought lovers outside of the home. Women married men. I mean for very practical reasons some of the marriages of course as you know had been arranged, etc.

The Book of Proverbs actually, as we’re going to see, speaks right through that and actually gets to much closer of an intimate relationship.

We see that God desires the marriage to be much more exclusive and intimate than the culture, in which it was written, viewed marriage.

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1. Marriage as a Covenant

All right… let’s first look at marriage as Covenant. Proverbs chapter 2 verse 16-17 tells us this…

“Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman, (so there it is, it’s being written towards a man)…
from the wayward woman with her seductive words,
ll talk about some of the physical intimacy issues and marriage next week. So we’re going to leave vs. 6 alone for the most part now)
17 who has left the partner of her youth

    and ignored the covenant she made before God.”

So marriage is addressed to us as this idea of a covenant. A covenant is the concept of an agreement or contract between two parties. We have sacraments that are visible signs of God’s New Testament Covenant with us–his new agreement, or his promise, his contract.

In today’s culture, the greatest sign of an informal Covenant is to shake someone’s hand. Or we might for a more formal Covenant, we might sign a legal document of some kind.

God created marriage as a covenant.

And notice it says, “you’ve ignored the Covenant she made before God”. It’s not just a covenant with one another as we might think of a covenant being, but it’s a covenant before God.

That’s why whenever I do a wedding I say something like, “Hey, Dan, you’re not just saying today that you will love Amanda, you are saying ‘God, I will love Amanda’.”

“And Amanda, you’re not just saying, ‘Dan, I will love you’. But rather you’re saying, “God, I will love Dan’.” You’re making a covenant, not just merely to one another, but look what the Scripture says, “the Covenant before God”.

And that’s how marriage is given to us in the Bible.

Now, how can we think about a covenant marriage before God without thinking about the great Covenant, the New Testament Covenant, the visible reminder that we’re going to partake in later today in our service (communion), this new agreement that God has with his people built upon his grace and mercy that says, “Jesus’ body has been broken for our sins. His blood has been shed for our sins, and by faith alone, we can then have access to the complete forgiveness of our sins”.

This is the beautiful New Testament Covenant–the Gospel.

And so when a married couple comes together and they realize that they’re operating in a covenant not just with one another but in a covenant with God, they Infuse, they begin to infuse this wonderful Gospel into their relationship. And they start walking… two people in a marriage covenant before God are walking in relationship with the best spouse that they could ever possibly have–not one another but Jesus Christ who has called us his bride.

So we come before God in this Covenant with one another we recognize that the New Testament Covenant and the Gospel message that flows from it, that we can be the bride of Christ and now a husband and wife are coming together, walking together in perfect relationship with Jesus Christ and all that He has to offer.

This begins to erode away one of the biggest problems with our modern marriage, which is, when we start walking with Jesus and receiving from him what he has to offer, it starts to help us be more realistic about what we’re trying to get from our husband or our wife in a marriage relationship.

Most marriage relationships fail because they come together and they’re looking for too much from their husband, too much from their wife, and not enough from their Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.

Hear that again… most marriages, I think, ultimately fail because they’re looking for too much from their husband or too much from their wife and not enough from Jesus Christ.


The Gospel teaches us from the outset of our marriage how incredibly flawed we are… “for I am a sinner that needed Jesus to die on the cross for my sins. My wife is such a great sinner that she needed Jesus to die on a cross for her sins.” So let’s be realistic from the beginning about what this is like before we enter into this relationship.

Marriage, God says, is this covenant that we make before God and to God about one another. It’s then therefore not a promise so much or an expression so much of how I feel about you now as much as it is about my commitment to how I’m going to treat you in the future.

This is what a real Christian marriage covenant means.

Now some of you say, “Man, I hear all this Covenant stuff, but you don’t know, I married the wrong person. I mean, I married the wrong person.”

This is a time for me to be pastorally sensitive and realize that some of you I mean really did. And that person has done things that biblically allow you to leave that relationship. That person may have done things that I would even pastorally counsel you to leave that relationship. But in general, most people when they say “I’ve married the wrong person”, need to realize and be reminded of the Covenant that they made before God. And maybe to get a little bit of this wisdom that says, “none of us married the right person.”

No one married the right person. There’s no such thing as 100 percent perfect compatibility. None of us married the right person. And we all change incredibly in our marriage.

You might think you married the right person and five years later they’re the wrong person. Or there’s someone else different five more years later.

There’s this quote where this guy says,

“In the 20 years, I’ve been married to my wife. She has lived with at least four different men… and all four of them have been me.”

Isn’t that true? Because we change dramatically. So we can’t go into a marriage covenant based on our compatibility with the person or even how they’re currently making us feel. It must be something bigger and greater than that, and it’s only our commitment before God that sometimes keeps us in a marriage.

Gold Dividing LineWhen I talk to couples who are about to get married or who have just been married and I say to them something like, “There will come a time. When you will not be want to be married to your husband or wife.” They look at me… as if I’m foreign of some kind and I’m speaking this alien language that somehow they pity me because of my marriage relationship must somehow be something that they never want there’s to be.

No, I love my wife and have a wonderful relationship with her. But the statement is still true. Anyone who’s been married for any length of time when realistic enough says, “There’ve been Seasons where I didn’t want to be married to my wife… I didn’t want to be married to him.”

But marriage is presented to us in the Book of Proverbs as a covenant before God and our spouse may change a hundred times over, but the character of God never changes.

Gold Dividing LineSome people say, “Love shouldn’t be this hard though… but it really shouldn’t be this hard. I mean maybe the fact that we have to work at it this hard is a sign that we’re not really supposed to be together.”

Who came up with that idea?

Since when does hard work mean that something isn’t of value or worth or something that God wants us to be behind.

We don’t say that about the fact that “Well, you know, you’re a great piano player, but it took you a lot of practice to be that good at it. So it must really not be of that value.”

Or, “You ran a marathon. That’s an amazing feat. But you had a practice at it so hard so, I mean, it’s really not that impressive of a thing.”

When is something that’s of value, that’s worth accomplishing not something that you also have to work hard at? 

So the idea is that maybe your marriage isn’t a state right now where you really have to work hard; maybe you have to work hard at just getting along. Or maybe you really have to work hard at finding JOY in the relationship… that you so long to have joy in physical intimacy, or emotional intimacy, whatever you may have to work hard at it.


But that doesn’t mean that God doesn’t want you in that relationship. That doesn’t mean that what comes as the result of that hard work isn’t worth it, or it’s not valuable in any way.

Marriage is presented to us as a covenant that we make before God.

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Marriage is not only presented to us in the Book of Proverbs as a covenant, but it’s also presented to us in the Book of Proverbs as a friendship. marriage as a friendship.

2. Marriage as a Friendship

In fact, if you go to the next verse it’s also Proverbs Chapter 2 verses 16 through 17 this look at these same verses again with just a little different focus and we’ll see this part come out…

“Wisdom will save you also from the adulterous woman,
from the wayward woman with her seductive words,
(more on that next week)
17 who has left the partner of her youth
    and ignored the covenant she made before God.”

who has left the partner of her youth“. This is one of those great times where the original language gives us so much insight as to what God is trying to communicate to us.

Her partner or his partner. Let’s jump over to Proverbs chapter 6 verse 28 and show you real quick here that this is the exact same word that we dealt with a couple weeks ago when the Bible says an expression like…

A perverse person stirs up conflict,
    and a gossip separates…what is it?… close friends.

That’s the same word that’s being used here in Proverbs Chapter 2.

Let’s go back to our Proverbs chapter 2 verse 16 and 17,

who has left the partner of her youth

You see what’s lost in that translation is this idea that they in their marriage relationship are best friends and close with one another.

You see, to have Marriage as a Covenant, as a part of your identity, but not Marriage as Friendship as a part of your identity, is a pretty difficult place to be in isn’t it?

Some of you know what it’s like to go through years, maybe even decades, some of you sadly, maybe even your entire marriage have been married as a covenant you stayed together, but never really discovered the beauty and value of finding marriage as a friendship.

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And there’s a song that came out back in the 90s by this group called Pearl Jam. We’re going to let you listen to a clip of it. It’s a secular song and he’s writing about really the state of this woman who’s in this marriage relationship and clearly there’s no joy being found in it. But they’re still together and she’s staying together and you can just kind of cut see an image, an artistic image of what “Marriage is Covenant” without “Marriage is Friendship” kind of looks like.


Pearl Jam – Can’t Find a Better Man

You get the gist of this from Pearl Jam… this expression of a relationship that’s there, it’s still intact… there’s this marriage as Covenant component, but a marriage as friendship part is lost.

The Proverbs go on to tell us in Proverbs chapter 21 verse 9..,

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

Again, sorry ladies. The Proverbs pick on you because it was written to young men. But this goes both ways.

Now maybe you thought up the idea of sleeping on the couch was bad, apparently, this guy’s having to hang out in the corner of a roof.

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

Proverbs chapter 21 verse 19 says something very similar to this…

Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.

Proverbs Chapter 19, Verse 13 tells us,

A foolish child is a father’s ruin, and a quarrelsome wife is like the constant dripping of a leaky roof.

Notice that we have the word quarrelsome for all three of these Proverbs. All three of these Proverbs speak about this idea of “quarrelsome”–somebody who is combative, who’s constantly picking out and finding faults in the way someone else is doing something and it’s as if they’re seeking some type of argument on a regular basis.

These people who are quarrelsome in their marriage. either husbands or wives lack true Gospel understanding, don’t they? They go into the marriage failing to recognize that they are flawed sinners, as well, who need God’s grace; and that their spouse is a sinner who needs not only God’s grace but their common Grace as well.

Sometimes you just want to shout into marriages that are falling apart and say. 

Buddy… buddy that might be fine that that’s the way you do the dishwasher, but let her load the dishwasher, however, she wants. Are you really going to lose your marriage over this?

I mean the things that we choose to fight and battle and quarrel over are really quite ridiculous when you think about the beauty and the goal of what a marriage relationship is supposed to do, and point towards glorifying God.

“Friends” is what the marriage relationship is after, and here’s a warning about not being quarrelsome in the marriage relationship.

I mean some of you could just pause and stop and just ask the Lord to say,

“Hey, if I’m a quarrelsome husband or wife, like show me this week.” How much effort and energy, how taxing is it to be married to me?

It would be a very interesting place to start as we think about the nature of our quarrelsome behavior and how that gets in the way of us becoming the Friendship Partners that God has designed for the marriage relationship.

Not only should we ought not to be enemies as so many marriages find themselves in, but God is after us not being even just roommates… but truly friends.

It doesn’t mean that you have to have everything possible in common with one another; it doesn’t mean that your husband can’t golf and you don’t enjoy golfing; it doesn’t mean that your wife can’t shop and you don’t enjoy shopping.

Sorry for the stereotypical examples, but you get the idea.

Being friends doesn’t mean you have to have every last thing in common, but there should be something we’re aiming after. And it might not be natural.

Maybe you’re hearing this you’re realizing, “I don’t have a friendship with my husband or my wife the way that I think God wants me to have a friendship with my husband or wife. It may require work. It may not be natural just because you don’t have the friendship now doesn’t mean that you can’t.

Marriage as a friendship… that’s a goal that we’re aiming after. And we glorify God when we interact with one another that way and take such incredible delight in each other’s company.

This is one of the radical teachings of Proverbs into that culture. This would be like going to the Middle East today and saying to men,

 “You should be best friends with your wife and treat her like your best friend.”

Going to the women and saying,

“You should be best friends with your husband and treat them like your best friend.”

It’s radically different than their culture and mindset. Some people might call that culturally insensitive, but it’s biblical.

Back then, the mindset of a marriage relationship was not one of emotional intimacy with one another where they had that type of friendship, but the Bible’s speaking right through that cultural aspect of that time and giving you an eye–the vision of being friends, best friends and partners with our husbands and our wives.Gold Dividing Line[00:23:54]

The Book of Romans chapter 15 verses 1 through 3 gives us maybe some insight into the part that we might control and to how we might achieve this in a relationship. He says,

 We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please our neighbors… for their good, to build them up. For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.

If you don’t mind, I’ll take a little liberty to replace the word neighbor with your husband or your wife and see something along the lines of…

“each of us should please our husband or a wife for their good to build them up for even Christ did not please himself.”

You see this idea that we enter into this relationship with each other’s needs and each other’s benefit on our mind, is one of the greatest ways we can become great friends and serve one another and have great friendship amongst each other in our marriage relationships.

This is the opposite image of the many selfish reasons why we got married, isn’t it?

If I was to ask you to list off a bunch of reasons why you married your husband or your wife, they might be wonderful things. You’d say something like,

“They earned a good living. They were attractive. They were funny. They…” you know, and you could just start listing all kinds of things. “We had this in common.” You start listing all kinds of things that you liked about your husband or wife.

But if you think about it as you look through that list you realize most of those things on the list, what you were attracted to about that person was because those things served your best interest.

So we enter into a marriage relationship from that default position. And here we’re finding God’s wisdom and counsel helping us to see that ‘no’, those of us who are followers of Christ, we put each other first, and we start serving each other.

And that’s really the only way to accomplish marriage as friendship.

Quickly then, the other aspects that we see in the Book of Proverbs regarding marriage, is we see Marriage as Intellectual Partners.

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3. Marriage as Intellectual Partners 

The Book of Proverbs Chapter 1 starting in verse 8 and 9. This is another one of those again radical concepts of marriage at this time the idea where most women didn’t receive an education to be seen in valued by The Book of Proverbs as an intellectual partner is something that was incredibly transforming to the marriage relationship back then

Proverbs chapter 1 verses 8 through nine tells us…

Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction
    and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.
 For they are a garland to grace your head
    and a chain to adorn your neck.

Listen, right? …your father and your mother has something important to teach you, the Book of Proverbs is saying/

They both have something invaluable to say. For they are intellectual partners in rearing, for example, their children, in this case.

Another such incident in Proverbs chapter 6 verse 20 tells us something similar…

My son, again, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.

Again, they have something valuable to say, they both have something valuable to teach you, and to instruct you.

Let me just ask you, Are you intentionally giving your kids the wrong impression about either of the parents? …for those who love you who are still raising your children.

A lot of marriage relationships do this because they operate in such a way that one of them is the intellectual person. The other one is the emotional person or something along those lines.

And unintentionally, they communicate to their sons and daughters that people of that gender, whether it was the husband or the wife, the father or the mother, are people who don’t have something intellectually to offer.

The same comes true, I think, with discipline as well when it comes to them being Intellectual Partners.

If you’re going to instruct your kids, if both the husband and wife have something to instruct them on, then you think they’d be able to reinforce those boundaries as well.

One thing I always tell parents to do is “Don’t ever get into the habit of saying something like, ‘When your father comes home’ or ‘When your mother comes home, he or she’s going to spank you or send you to your bedroom.”

My family operated that way and all it did is reinforce the fact that I shouldn’t really respect my mom. She told me what not to do, I didn’t do it, and she didn’t have anything to do in response other than to say, “Wait till your dad gets home”.

So then the next time she says something it’s like. “You’re really not that respect worthy.” Right?

No, a mother and a father who are Intellectual Partners not only provide instruction for their children but they mutually then reinforce that instruction and are willing to say to them, “Here are the consequences.” and then to reinforce those consequences.

Proverbs chapter 31 verses 10 through 11 tells us this…

A wife of noble character, who can find?
    For she is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her… 

Another translation is her husband has full trust in her. This is one of the only times in the Bible where it commends the idea of trusting someone else–other than God… is this expression of a husband trusting his wife. Because he recognizes that she is someone who he can place his trust in.

And we want that both ways. We want a husband and a wife to operate in such a way that he can trust her and she can trust him–that they are indeed intellectual partners with one another.

Proverbs chapter 31 verse 26 tells us…

She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

The Bible says, “Hey go find an intellectual partner.” A wise spouse then is someone who will recognize their spouse’s intellectual strength and heeds to those intellectual strengths.

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You look at your husband and you say,

“He knows more about this area than I do. He’s going to take the lead here.”

You look at your wife and you say, “She knows more about this than I do, and she’s going to take the lead here.”

Anything… anything short of that is a complete failure to recognize the gifting and intellect that God has given both the husband and the wife.

Next, not only do we see marriages Intellectual Partners, but we also see marriage presented to us in Proverbs as Managing Partners as well.


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4. Marriage as Managing Partners

In the Book of Proverbs Chapter 14 verse 1, the Scripture tells us…

The wise woman builds her house,
    but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.

It’s an interesting expression, “the wise woman builds her house”. Does that mean, “Ladies, If you want to be wise you have to be able to like hammer nails and cut and sawed and all those kinds of things… surely, there’s more at stake than just the physical construction of a house?

Here’s a quote from Tim Keller on this Proverb. He says,
“Proverbs assumes, as does the rest of the Bible, that the husband is the head of the home. If that’s a new expression to you we’ll deal with that another time,
This headship will take different forms in different marriages. 
Completely true.
But however one conceives it, it cannot be taken to mean that the husband alone makes all the management decisions.
The wise woman builds her house, and here the word house means not to merely construct the physical dwelling, but to lay the foundations for a family’s life: socially, economically, materially, emotionally, and spiritually, to come together as managing partners of their home.” 

Do you view each other that way?

Proverbs chapter 31 verse 21 and 22 tells us this…

When it snows, she (that is this Proverbs 31 woman) has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

Proverbs 31 in verse 27 tells us this…

She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Ya know some pastors go past the biblical authority by instructing husbands and wives exactly how they should manage their household saying,

“Husband’s you must play this role. Wives, you must play this role”

And when pastors do that, they go beyond the scope of the biblical Authority is that is provided for them. The biblical Authority is that a husband and wife should be Managing Partners as they come together and care for their home.

Both those domestic things that need to be done around the house, and the earning of income that needs to happen. Here, she has both of those aspects as we’ll see.

But a husband and wife both need to recognize these Dynamics as they come together and manage their household with one another.

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Next, the Bible also presents marriage as an economic partnership.


5. Marriage as Economic Partners

Proverbs 31 verse 13+ says…

She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.
15She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.
18She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.

Again, as Tim Keller said some marriage relationships will handle the details of this differently. Of course in some of our marriage relationships both the husband and wife work; sometimes ones working part-time sometimes ones working full-time.

We have all kinds of different arrangements. And to get much more specific than that, I think again would be to go beyond the scope of the biblical Authority.

But what we see here in this Proverbs 31 Woman is she’s not only both at home, but she’s also at work. She’s bringing income in and caring for the house.

And I think in many ways that speaks to what we want in a husband and wife–essentially saying,

Wise couples are filled with husbands and wives who care both for their home and for their income in the workplace around them.

When I meet men who are so chauvinistic as the think that there are domestic tasks around the house that they’re above… it bothers me.

When I meet women who think that they are so free that to stay at home is somehow a slight on women… then that bothers me as well.

The Bible isn’t saying you have to be one or the other, but it is saying that wise couples care for both.

And here this Proverbs 31 Woman has an economic dynamic in the relationship together.

Proverbs 31:24 and 25 says this

She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.

Just a statistical reality church that people who are married retire with more wealth and earn more income as individuals their whole lives than single people do.

It’s so ironic that single people often don’t want to get married because they’re worried about the economic impacts of it.

Here in God’s design, we see that ‘no’, they come together as Economic Partners, they actually increase the likelihood of prospering.

Finally, marriage as Ministry Partners.

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6. Marriage as Ministry Partners

There’s just one Proverb here, Proverbs 31 verse 20 tells us…

She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.

Perhaps the piece of the puzzle that in some ways drives all the rest of these is discovering this together. It’s coming together and finding a way as husband and wife to realize that you’re ultimately Ministry Partners.

You should be doing something for the Kingdom of God together, equally serving the Kingdom of God. Coming alongside each other in that way is a precious thing to find in a husband and wife–someone who’s truly is caring for the things of the Kingdom of God.



Church, as we look at all these aspects of the marriage relationship, we’re reminded together this morning as we come to this table, that God uses marriage perhaps more than any other relationship here on Earth to help us see our need for this table.

No relationship more than the marriage relationship will help us to discover How Deeply flawed we are, and how broken we are.

Some of us will come to this table as single; some will come married and struggling with our marriage; some will come married and blessed in our marriage, and others will come maybe divorced.

Some will come widowed… but this table is a reminder that each and every one of us by Christ’s body being broken and blood being shed can walk in a great intimate relationship with Jesus Christ as he calls all of us, “His bride”.

I invite those who are serving this morning to come forward at this time.

We’re going to pass these elements out to you invite you to take both cups in each slot and you’ll find the bread underneath.

You’ll find the bread underneath the cup and we’ll take them together in just a minute. Thank you..”


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