Parenting – Proverbs Week 8

Pastor Dan Borgelt

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“There is so much we could say about parenting… there’s so much that the Bible has to say about parenting, but in particular we’re looking at what does the Book of Proverbs have to say about the idea of parenting.

Let’s cut right to the chase in case you’re about to fall asleep on me because you were watching basketball too late last night or something…. here’s our BIG IDEA this morning. I think that The Book of Proverbs is going to teach us this… that,

Wise parents, the Book of Proverbs is all about becoming wiser…

Wise parents use Grace, Instruction, and Discipline to point their kids towards Jesus.

Wise parents use grace, instruction, and discipline to point their kids towards Jesus,

We’re going to be talking about all three of those things right in that order Grace, then Instruction, then Discipline. And let’s be honest… some of us will try to do one of those over the other, and I think the Bible is going to tell us, “We_ will_fail”.

If we try an only Grace approach, where we’re like,
“Hey
, we’re just going to treat our kids as if they’re our best friends, and never do that whole instruction and discipline thing”, then I think the Bible is going to teach us that we’ll fail to point them to Jesus — core elements will be missing in our parenting.

If we are on the other end of things, and all about the instruction and whenever they fail in our instructions, it’s like discipline, discipline, discipline… then we’re going to fail to teach them something important about the character of God and point them towards Jesus.

And so here’s what we have for you,
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Wise parents use Grace, Instruction, and Discipline to point their kids towards Jesus.

Now, I know some of you here are thinking,Hey, this is kind of irrelevant for me because I don’t have kids. I don’t have kids yet, or I’ve already raised my kids.” Let me just take a moment to address you if that’s you in the room.

If you don’t have kids yet, the best time to learn how to fly a plane is before you take off, not after (laughter). And so there’s value in learning a little something about parenting before you start having kids.

🧡 If you’ve already raised your kids then maybe one of the things that God’s going to talk to you about this morning is like, “Hey, my parents rocked… they did a really good job”, and you’re going to be moved to thank God for that.  Awesome.

💗However, some of you are going to have to come to peace and reconciliation with the fact that you’re going to need to get this from your loving heavenly father because it didn’t come from mom or dad.

💗Those of you who raised your kids you’ll be thinking about not your parents but your own raising of your children, and you’ll be thinking to yourself, “You know, there are some things that we messed up. I didn’t provide them the grace of instruction or discipline.”
And some of you might be prompted even to call them today or write them a note this week and say,
“Hey, we love you. Just want to let you know… here are some things that we didn’t do the way we think we should have.”

💗Or maybe some of you will be at peace today and you’re like, “Hey, I was a pretty good parent.”
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So whether we presently have kids or not, there’s something for all of us in this message. And let’s just be honest,,,

The Bible talks far more about a spiritual family than a biological family.

So no matter who you are here.. if you’ve put your faith in Jesus Christ, you’re part of the family of God, and you have kids.

If you don’t have kids yet, if you’re a follower of Jesus you do have kids.

If you’ve already raised your kids. Well, if you’re a follower of Jesus, there are still more kids to be raised — you’re part of the Spiritual family of God.

Wise parents use Grace, Instruction, and Discipline to point their kids towards Jesus.

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Let’s look at this concept of the grace that’s needed.

1. Grace

Book of Proverbs chapter 22 verse 15 tells us this,

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.

Now, I know most of you are paying attention to the word rod and discipline. We’re going to talk about that later. So for now if you don’t mind just look at this first line…

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,

I think that this is the most revealing and life-changing thing that the Bible has to say to us about parenting.

It says something about our kids. It says, “Our kids have Folly in their hearts.”  The New Testament version of this, it’s, “sin in their hearts” – they are not born to us as perfect little angels. And so Folly is not just a part of their character, it’s not like they have like 10 percent folly or 25% folly.

If you did a pie chart of their character would be just a part of them’s kind of messed up. No, the Bible is saying Folly is bound in their heart… it’s a part of the very core of who they are. So everything that they say and do is tainted by sin.

Parents need to realize this when they’re raising kids from the very beginning.

It’s not just that they become Sinners after they make their first mistake in the world, no, they sin eventually because they are sinners.

They don’t become Sinners because you and I messed up and somehow introduced sin to them, no they are sinners and sin because they were born that way. Folly is bound up in the heart of a child.

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King David over the nation of Israel was writing about his own kind of brokenness and he said in Psalm 51:5 these words. He said,

Surely I was sinful at birth,

…not when I made my first mistake or something…

Surely I was sinful at birth,
    sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

David understood this idea that he was broken from the beginning. This is absolutely revolutionary when it comes to raising children… to realize that we are bringing children into the world who are broken. And the reason why this is incredibly important is because we embrace the fact that our children are born below the line of Salvation.

They’re not born above the line – meaning we incorrectly think that they’re already on the course of going to heaven and all we have to do is not mess that up for that.

I think that a lot of parents parent that way. A lot of parents who are in religious circles raise their kids from a religious system. Meaning what they think is, that they were given this child who’s this precious, perfect thing, and all they have to do is help their child not mess up.

So they become legalistic parents.

Like someone who gets a brand new car… you ever get a brand new car, and you’re like, “I don’t park in this car anywhere near anyone else.” You park it way out there because you don’t want any dents or dings on it.

And we think we have a child that all we have to do is just keep from the world and then they won’t have any dents or dings on them and we’ll be able to present them without blemish to God someday that way.

But here’s the thing, the Bible’s not saying that “In your children, you received a perfectly Mint Condition car.” It’s saying “you received a child each and every one of us is born into this world in Collision state — in a complete collision in desperate need of repair.”

Born below the line.

So something amazing has to happen in our children’s lives before they come above the line, and that is we’re pointing them to Jesus. We’re pointing them in that direction. And so we call that The Gospel. We talked about having gospel-centered parenting, not religious parenting.

The religious parent is going to be legalistic and try to protect this thing that’s precious and they think that they just need to keep it pure and perfect because they’re trying to get their child to earn their way into heaven just like they’re trying to earn their way into heaven.

But the Gospel, the good news of the Bible is not this religious message. It says, “Hey, you’re broken sinners. All of you have Folly in your heart. You were sinful at Birth, but Jesus_died_for_that_sin.”

That’s the good news that we celebrate and we want to believe that not only in our own Hearts but for our own children as well.

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I came across this Facebook image that contrasts religious parenting and gospel-centered parenting. The religious parenting says something like, “I messed up. My dad is going to kill me.” Because here you are, it’s all legalism. It’s just saying hey, I’ve got this kid that I need to just keep perfect and before God.

But the gospel-centered parent has a kid that says, “I messed up. I need to call my dad.”Religious'Gospel Centered.jpgIsn’t that what we want from our children? Because that’s who we believe our loving heavenly Father is. It’s not that he ignores the fact that we mess up, it’s that he’s dealt with that mess up through his son Jesus dying on the Cross.

And so He’s there for us when we mess up we go to him. We want him to be there for us and we want to be that kind of parent. This would be a gut check for some of us who are in religious circles… are we raising our kids from a religion based mentality or gospel mentality? … where our children say, “I messed up. I need to call my mom… I need to call dad. I need to bring this to an end.”

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First Peter Chapter 3 Verse 18 tells us,

For Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, to bring you to God. He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit.

Just think about this verse as it relates to your kids.

Christ also suffered for their sins”… for their Folly in their heart, as Proverbs says. “He, the righteous one, has died for them, the unrighteous ones to bring them to God”.
They are born below the line. They’re born separated from God and we as Gospel-centered parents point them to Jesus because he’s the one who died to bring them to God, their heavenly father.

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And so we’re looking to be gospel-centered parents who infused an element of Grace into our kids’ lives because we realize they’re going to mess up. Never should we say to our children something like,

“Oh, man. I cannot believe_you_did_this!”

What are we saying when we say that — that we don’t understand that they were born sinful with Folly in their hearts. We’re also saying that “I would never do that myself.” You are so broken that I can’t even think about what you’re doing let alone do it myself.”

No, our kids don’t surprise us when they sin or when they mess up or when they make a mistake because we understand the wisdom of the Scripture that says, they’re gonna mess up, they’re gonna make these mistakes. So we want to point our kids towards the grace that they so desperately need.

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Grace is something that very few of us parents demonstrate for our children, isn’t it?
We’re pretty good at setting boundaries and then disciplining people if they don’t follow those boundaries, but Grace is something that most parents only talk to their kids about, if that, and almost never demonstrate.

So here’s my challenge for you this week…

Next time your kid messes up some-time, it’s going to happen this week. they’re going to mess up, you’re going to set a boundary, you’re going to say something they’re going to do something that they shouldn’t… go ahead and tell them,
“Hey, that was wrong. Mom or dad didn’t want you to do that.”

But then, the next step… is to show them Grace. Go ahead and buy their favorite type of ice cream ahead of time, and then walk them into the kitchen and sit down and start to have ice cream with them and they say,

“I just messed up. Normally you’d be mad at me. Normally I have to go to “the room”, or you take screens away, or whatever. Why are we having ice cream together?”

And you just say one word back…

“Grace”

Because how are they ever going to receive and understand the grace that God has for them if we as parents aren’t willing to demonstrate it?

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And why are we so afraid to demonstrate it to them?

Why are we so afraid to demonstrate it, if it’s an intentional and purposeful and wonderful characteristic of God—a perfect and holy God. Why are we afraid to show Grace to our own children?

And so your homework assignment is to show Grace of some kind. I don’t know maybe ice cream, isn’t it for your kids. For me, if I was your kid–ice cream would work.

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For some of you, this is an important concept to realize–that kids have Folly in their heart because some of you feel incredible guilt because you feel like you’re ruining your kids’ lives. Like,
“They’re messed up”… and you feel like it’s your fault.

Maybe it is your fault. I don’t know (laughter) BUT… (more laughter), but, in all likelihood, it’s not. Right?  Your kids don’t have to have parents do something wrong before they do something wrong.
And so you get to embrace and find comfort in the fact that they have their own FOLLY in their hearts and your job is not to feel the guilt and burden for their own mistakes, but to point them to the Jesus who died_for_them.

So we need that Grace if we’re going to point our kids towards Jesus because that’s how he rescues us.

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2. Instruction

We also need instruction as well. The Book of Proverbs chapter 23 verse 22 through 24 tells us this,

Listen to your father, who gave you life,
    and do not despise your mother when she is old.

23 Buy the truth and do not sell it—
    wisdom, instruction and insight as well.
24 The father of a righteous child has great joy;
    a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him.

So the Scripture says “Hey, listen to your parents“, right? “listen to your father, listen to your mother, they gave you life.”

Now this may simply mean the idea that Mom and Dad came together (implying coitus), we talked about that last week (slight laughter)… yeah, and anyways, thank you for the two of you who laughed. 😁

Okay… Mom and Dad came together and they gave life. It may simply mean that… or it may be the life–the awesome life that Jesus was talking about when he said,  “I came that you might have life and the life to the fullest…” and maybe that kind of life that comes from having wise parents with kids who are listening to them.

Don’t despise your mother when she’s old,

Now here, listen to this…

Buy the truth and do not sell it—

In other words, your parents have some truth to pass on to you, take it, receive it, and don’t exchange it, don’t trade it for the world.

Now this, of course, is being written to the children, but we as parents want to say, “Hey, do I have truth? Am I giving my kids the type of Truth and instruction that they should value above all else?

And then it goes on says,

wisdom, instruction and insight ….

Look at all the things that a parent can give to a kid—things that we can give to our children:

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I love that, “the wisdom the instruction and the insight” that we could be giving to our kids.this is good

Of course, I think the natural question when you see that line is, “Like… about what though?
You want me to give my kids Wisdom… about what?
Instruction… about what?
Insight… into what?

Because here’s the thing… we’ve got some really smart people in this church. All of you have wisdom and instruction and insight into a particular area that you could be giving to your kids. But what does the Bible after?

I mean, I think the Bible loves all the wisdom and instruction that you have to give your kids. But I mean is it telling you that… this is about manners, for example? We want to raise properly behaved kids… we want to give them the wisdom and instruction and the Insight so that they’re well-behaved kids?

Is it about schooling? Do we want to give them the wisdom and the instruction and the insight so that they get straight A’s? And some of you parents fixate on that.

Is it about sports?  Do we want to pass on to them wisdom and instruction inside so they become the best soccer player, or the best dancer or the best softball player… or whatever it is on their team?

What is the Bible after here? Is about the birds and bees? Do we give them wisdom and instruction and insight?

I think the Bible would love that idea of us giving all those things, but I don’t think that’s the main point… in any way at all.

But rather I think the main point of the wisdom, the instruction, and insight that we’re supposed to be giving our kids is like, right here right in the Bible that we are teaching them and instructing them and giving them insight into the ways of God:

  • How much he loves them

  • How much he desperately wants to have a relationship with them, and

  • The Power of The Word that he has given us.

This is so challenging to me… because I think to myself, “Well wait a second, if that’s the case, then I have to be a man who kind of dives into this book, right?

We got to be a father and a mother who dives into this book before we’re in a position to really pass on the wisdom the instruction in the Insight that it has to offer.

Matters of faith, I think is what Proverbs is all about.

Jesus said this in the New Testament in Matthew chapter 28 verses 19 through 20. Some of you will recognize this as a passage of Scripture known as the Great Commission. He said,

19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, 20 and (here it is) teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”


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Part of fulfilling the Great Commission was recognizing that people not only needed to hear about Jesus, but they then need to be instructed to obey everything that Jesus had taught. That’s what we’re passing on to our children.

Here’s the problem that many of us parents make:

We forget our own children when it comes to the Great Commission. We start praying for our neighbor or co-worker. We want them to have a relationship with Jesus Christ. We start thinking about them.

We even start talking to our kids about other people as well before we really deal with the reality that our children were born below the line, and the first order of business in following the Great Commission in raising kids is teaching our own children to obey everything that Jesus has taught them—to point them in the direction of Jesus Christ and not to forget them when it comes to the Great Commission. And so we teach them this.

Proverbs chapter 4 verse 3 through 4 tells us that one of the ways we can do this is through our own words, of course.
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Teaching Our Children through

1. WORDS

For I too was a son to my father (the author of Proverbs says),
    still tender, and cherished by my mother.
Then he taught me, and he said to me,
(listen to this… these awesome, precious words)….
    “Take hold of my words with all your heart;
    keep my commands, and you will live.

This father has been so intent in teaching and instructing his child about the ways of the Lord that he’s able to just say take hold of my words.

Here’s the thing… I want you to just imagine this, a little illustration for you. I love the idea of us as parents giving a Bible to our kids that’s like in their own language, maybe written at their level, that kind of thing. It’s a great idea.
I just want you to imagine for illustration purposes though that you didn’t have that tool. And the only source that your children had to learn about what God has to say to them is from your words.   

 “Take hold of my words with all your heart;

Would we be able to say that to our kids?

I’ve been so intent about passing on to you the truth of Gods Word, what He has to say, that I can say, “Just go ahead and listen to what I have to say; because what I have to say is what God has to say.” 

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And that’s an incredibly challenging thing — especially for some of us who aren’t wired that way naturally.

  • For some of us, it will be easier to talk about our faith to our children.
  • Others will be able to show and demonstrate their faith in the life they live (and we’ll talk about that in a moment)—it will be easier than for others.

But for those of us who have a difficult time, maybe being that intimate and personal with our kids to sit down and chat with them about the things of the faith…. maybe your parents didn’t do that with you, or maybe you feel ill-equipped as far as your knowledge of the Bible, or whatever it might be, this is a challenging verse. But it’s one where I think God pushes us into these Waters and says, “Go ahead and take the step of Faith.”… to get to a place where we can say,

“Son/daughter, take hold of what I’ve said to you because what I’ve said to you is just merely what God has to say in_His_Word.”

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Teaching Our Children through

2. ACTIONS

Well not only do we use words, but we use our actions as well Proverbs chapter 20 verse 7 tells us this,

The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.

So the Bible says, “Hey, one of the ways we instruct our kids is to lead a blameless life,” and it says, “our children’s will be blessed having parents who lead this blameless life.”

The Hebrew word here for blameless is not so much about being perfect, for none of us are perfect, but it does talk a lot about and emphasizes the idea of the consistency of the life that a parent lives.

So let’s be honest, one of the greatest reasons why our children will be tempted to abandon the Christian faith will be because of the hypocrisy they see in our lives.

And so the Bible says “there should be a blameless life” in that sense. They shouldn’t be able to say, “Hey Mom or Dad, you said this, you were taking me to church we did our prayers or night, but then this was happening in our house as well.”

We can’t blame kids when they leave the faith for a period of time when that happens.

So the children who have parents, who are not perfect, but blameless, are blessed because of that model and example.

And again, some of you will be better at using your words to instruct. Some of you will be better at using your actions. But either way, we all want to have a little bit of both in our life.

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The famous proverb about instructing is Proverbs chapter 22 verse 6 says,

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.

Remember, Proverbs are not promises. This is not a guarantee. It’s a Biblical principle of Wisdom. So some of you parents need to just feel God’s grace and mercy right now because you have kids who have gone completely wayward from the faith and you’re feeling like, “Did I not do something right? Because the proverb seems to say that if I would have done my job right, they would be walking and step of the Lord.”

Remember this is not a promise, it’s not a guarantee… it’s a Wisdom principle that in general, children are more likely to walk in a relationship with the Lord when their parents are people who point them in the direction of the Lord.

And so that’s what we’re after…
Not only the Grace that we need to point them to Jesus not only the Instruction that we need to point them to Jesus. But finally, and this is where we start getting a little more controversial… the Discipline as well.

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3. Discipline

The discipline tells us in Proverbs chapter 3 verse 11 through 12,

My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline,
    and do not resent his rebuke,
12 because the Lord disciplines those he loves,
    as a father the son he delights in.

So this Proverbs actually about God’s discipline for us, but it draws a parallel to the idea of God disciplining us like the way the Bible expects a parent should discipline their child.

And so the first takeaway for us under discipline comes this idea that the Bible expects that our disciplining of our children, would parallel the disciplining that God has for us. And notice, what is God’s primary motivating factor in His disciplining of us in verse 12…

12  He disciplines those he loves, 💗

And so “loves”, if you hear nothing else about discipline, is the overarching word that must define all discipline of Christian parents who want to raise their children.

So the Scripture teaches us that not only is the discipline of our kids is LOVING, but that it should be DONE in a LOVING WAY as well—that it should be done in a loving way.

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In Proverbs 13:24 the Scripture tells us this,… now here’s where we get controversial… because, let’s be honest… we parents are pretty uptight, me included, about people talking to us about how we should raise our kids.

If you want to offend me, just overly correct my kids in my presence, as if I wasn’t there to correct them myself… something like that.

So here we come across Proverbs chapter 13 verse 24…

Whoever spares the rod hates their children,
    but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

Okay, we got to talk about this for a minute…

The rod has been often used by the church as a symbol of physical punishment and has been used by the church at times to provide a justification for the idea of spanking.

Not only do some people try to justify spanking, but they say on Proverbs like this that you must, that you’re required, that you’re being disobedient to God by not spanking.

Let’s look at Proverbs 13:24 with hopefully some fresh eyes. Let me put you at ease this morning.
I am not going to tell you not to spank your kids. I’m not going to tell you should spank your kids. Okay?
Why because I like my job, and I don’t… (LAUGHTER).

No in all seriousness, I’d like to think that I would tell you something that was hard to hear if I really thought the Bible taught it.

Here’s why I’m not going to tell you should spank your kids or you shouldn’t spank your kids… because the Bible doesn’t say you should spank your kids or you shouldn’t spank your kids — it’s just not in there.

Someone, somewhere along the line, came up with the idea that the rod represents spanking or that spanking represents the rod, but they made that judgment call. It’s completely conjecture. I mean, why doesn’t the rod equals something else?
Why doesn’t the rod equal of a belt, or a frying pan, or a stick, or a rod for that matter? Who came up with the idea to say “On biblical authority, I can say that a rod equals spanking?”

We can’t say that.

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When I was a kid my mom was mostly the kind of mom who said, “Wait till your dad gets home.” Yeah,  but one day I was in second grade and apparently I had pushed her over the limit. I mean, I don’t know. I was a precious little kid (LAUGHTER), I’m not sure what I could have done wrong, but apparently, I got under her skin.

And so she was going to spank me with something; and she ran out of the room and came back with this long stick and it was like a piece of trim, like molding that goes around the baseboard of your house.

And she told me to turn around, bend over, and the door to my bedroom is like right next to me and it’s sticking out a little further than my bottom.

And so she takes a stick and she’s like, WHACK..

And I hear this loud smack and the stick breaks but I feel nothing because she hit the door before she got to my bottom. And I heard her say some stuff  I can’t repeat now, she leaves the room, and so we had all that kind of stuff going on.

And here’s the thing… in secular arenas when the Bible was written the rod was it was a form of corporal punishment.

But do we get our parenting wisdom from how the secular government was treating its citizens and punishing its citizens… or do we learn our parenting wisdom from how God parents his children?

😎 That was supposed to be an easy question. 😎

In Psalm 23, we see the use of the word Rod as it relates to the character of God and the Bible. The psalmist says,

The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.
He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,
he refreshes my soul.
He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

You’ve heard that Psalm. And here is David talking about his relationship with God as if he was a sheep and God was a shepherd and he says, “God you used the rod to comfort me.”                         [00:28:33] 

You see I have to look this kind of thing up. But when you do look it up you discover that a Shepherd used their rod for one of a few things. They might:

  1. Ward off an intruder with their rod to protect the Sheep,

  2. They might part the wool of a sheep to look for and search for disease.

  3. They might, the closest thing attached to discipline, they might throw it in front of sheep who are moving astray to redirect them, and guide them in a different direction,

…but never did a Shepherd hit the sheep with the rod. 

Now again, I’m not saying that you ought not to spank your kids. I’m not saying you should spank your kids. I’m just simply saying that the Bible doesn’t teach that issue. It teaches the idea of using this rod as David saw God—as a great Shepherd comforting him.

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Okay in Proverbs chapter 29 verse 15 scripture says,

A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.

Proverbs 19 Verse 18 says,

Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.

Indeed, the lack of discipline has severe consequences for our kids, doesn’t it? And when The Word in Proverbs is using this word discipline, it’s a word that indeed could mean correct, it could mean punish, it could mean admonish, but it also means to exhort, it also means to instruct. And that’s why the NIV uses this expression, careful discipline”.

So whether you choose to spank or not to spank or use timeouts or you know snacks are taken away, or screens are taken away, or whatever it might be; or maybe you just give your kid a look and they know they better shape up or whatever. Whatever it might be, the Bible says, take the rod with the wisdom of God as our Shepherd, and use that and combine it with careful discipline to point your kids towards Jesus.

Some of you may need to do some things with some kids and other things with different kids of yours.

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Church, let’s finish with Colossians chapter 3 verse 21 which tells us,

Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.

And whatever strategy you use to provide Grace and Instruction and Discipline for your kids, know that the Bible is passionate about you not overwhelming your kids to the point that they become embittered and discouraged.

Which means before you make a rule, you should think twice about what that’s really a battle you’re willing to fight. Because if you make too many rules, you’re either not going to fight those battles, or you’re eventually going to imbitter your children and cause them to be discouraged.

So we think wisely about whether we want to make a rule. We follow the rule. If we make the rule and our punishment is the type of punishment that is a punishment that shows the love of our heavenly father and not one that embitters our children and discourages them.

Hey, we got some things we can take the Lord in prayer. Let’s do that.

Gold Dividing Line

LET'S PRAY (2)Father for those of us who hear this message today, some of us are just reminded that we had great parents and we want to praise you and thank you for them.

Some of us are here this morning, and we realize that our parents really failed to raise us as the Book of Proverbs would maybe have called them to do. And maybe some, very severely. Some people who are here need to express some forgiveness for their parents. We need to realize that you are their loving heavenly father and although they may not have received what they would have wanted here on Earth from their Earthly parent, they’ll spend an eternity with you. That’s awesome.

And those of us who are currently raising kids right now we ask for your forgiveness for:

  1. the many mistakes that we’ve made
  2. the times where we failed to show Grace,
  3. the times where our instruction was not in accordance with Your Word, 
  4. the times where our discipline wasn’t loving….

Father forgive us for that. We asked you to change our character. We ask that you be patient with us as you increase our patience with our children and give us love for them. Give us wisdom for them.

And we commit them to you because ultimately you’re the only one who can deal with the Folly that’s in the heart—You their Creator. We lift them up to you and pray for them and pray Lord that they would know Jesus Christ and put him above every other relationship.

We ask these things in Jesus’ name.  Amen.”

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